I don’t know about you, but the temptation to compare myself to others is pretty much constant, so much so that it’s almost automatic.

When I’m at boot camp I find myself comparing my fitness and athletic ability to my fellow campers (and usually falling short).

When I walk into a crowded room or store I start sizing up the women around me, comparing body size, dress, hair, and overall appearance and often wishing I looked [thinner][taller][more put together][other].

When I’m on Facebook and read about someone’s seemingly wonderful life with their adoring husband and 2.5 beautiful children I find the old green eyed monster of envy start to rise up within me as I long for a family of my own.

I’m not sure if the comparison trap is one that women are more prone to than men, or if we’re universally tempted to compare. Regardless, I think it’s human nature to compare ourselves to other people and to base our mood on whether or not we feel like we measure up. It’s no wonder that insecurity is such a common struggle.

I recently read this quote that I absolutely love:

I think that it sums up so perfectly the problem with comparison. We don’t know what other people are struggling with; things are not always as they seem. The people who seemingly (and that’s the key word here) have their act together may be a mess inside. The perfect family may be struggling. The beautifully dressed woman may be living with an unseeable disease. The people who can run faster and farther than I ever will may be running from a mountain of debt or family issues. We never know what someone else is going through, and it is so unfair to us as well as to them to compare our inner selves with someone’s outward self. This is a quote that I need to memorize and recall over and over whenever I’m tempted to start making comparisons.

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